Anna Kate

Anna Kate’s Story.

She lived for an hour and a half with Patau Syndrome

Anna Kate and Audrey (Small)

Describe your situation at the time of your pregnancy and your child’s diagnosis.

It was 2006, we already had Alex our first child and we were due our second child. When we went to a routine scan at 26 weeks we discovered our baby had a condition called Patau’s Syndrome.

 

What advice were you given at the time?
We were told the condition was congenital causing a list of symptoms but the bottom line was that our baby girl’s condition was “not compatible with life”. Our doctors didn’t know how she would live outside the womb – it could have being a day, a month but she would be dead within a year.

 

What were your emotions at the time? Did your emotions or attitude change once the baby was born or over time?
Our initial reaction was devastation and I immediately thought how I was going to continue through this pregnancy knowing its outcome. However during the next 8 weeks before our baby was born my attitude changed completely. I knew that any time my baby lived whether it was inside or outside the womb was sacred (nearly a blessing) I was grateful for every single moment, I could feel my baby kick and that was so precious to me.

Given the knowledge that we knew, more or less, how long our baby would live, we took this time as a way to get ready to say goodbye. We used the time to organise her funeral, to have the grandparents and close family members ready to see her and also say goodbye. On reflection this time with our baby was eventually part of the grieving/ healing process.

Where did you find help / information?
Our consultant was fantastic and very supportive.

What would you say to parents out there who have been given a similar diagnosis for their baby?
My advice is although it is a sad time, it became like a blessing to me, giving me time to get ready to say goodbye.

Was there anybody or anything in particular that helped you at the time?
The doctor and his secretary were amazing. We were never left alone; the hospital was there the whole time. We got great support from them.